When it comes to relationships, there are two main ways people can choose to structure them: monogamy and polyamory. Monogamy is the traditional model of having one romantic and sexual partner at a time, while polyamory is the practice of having multiple romantic and/or sexual partners at the same time, with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Let's start with the pros of monogamy. For one, it can provide a sense of security and exclusivity for the couple. Knowing that your partner is committed to you and only you can be a comforting feeling. Additionally, monogamy can simplify decision-making and reduce potential conflicts when it comes to things like planning for the future or dividing up time.
On the other hand, polyamory can offer a wider variety of experiences and connections. By having multiple partners, individuals in a polyamorous relationship may have access to different types of love, support, and companionship. It can also allow for more flexibility in terms of what you are looking for in a relationship.
However, polyamory also has its downsides. For one, it can be difficult to navigate communication and boundaries with multiple partners. It can also lead to feelings of jealousy or insecurity, especially if one partner is perceived as more important or favoured than the others.
So as you can see, it all comes down to communication. Whether you choose monogamy or embrace poly, your success will depend largely on your ability to effectively communicate your needs. Luckily, we've got you covered! How to Get What You Want is a 2-part post exploring how to use non-violent communication to navigate relationships and get your needs met. We use it all time time and it has been a huge help.
In the end, the choice between monogamy and polyamory is a personal one and depends on what feels right for each individual. Both come with their own set of advantages and disadvantages, but ultimately, it's important to be honest with yourself and your partners about what you want and need in a relationship. So go out there, have fun, and explore all the different types of love the world has to offer!